This is a very sensitive subject, an act whose meaning is misunderstood.

People who cause you pain leave a mark on your soul, and it is difficult to recover from hurt. It is indeed possible.

Forgiveness is a deliberate choice you make for yourself. This act does not mean that whatever the other party did to you is right. This does not mean that God is okay with your trauma. It only means that you love God and yourself enough to start walking the path of healing. It is easier to forgive someone when they show genuine remorse. In many situations, the person who hurt you shows no remorse and that makes it difficult. As mentioned above, forgiveness is a choice and not an emotion. You can pray and ask God to help you forgive someone, it does not immediately take away your pain. It only means that you detach yourself from the act and give the person to God.

Judgment belongs to God.

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Many people feel that when they forgive someone the person gets away with what they did. This is not the case at all, they are still reaping what they have sown. You just allow God to fight your battle for you. It is also necessary in most situations to put distance between you and that person. Staying in a toxic situation after you have forgiven may cause you to experience the same pain again and again. You can allow the person back into your life when time has passed, but after you have seen this person has real remorse and has changed. Set boundaries. Everyone makes mistakes and people can change. Unfortunately, you just cannot stay in a situation where a person has no remorse, abuses your forgiveness, and repeats the same things. A rape victim cannot go back to the person who raped her or him.

 

Love yourself enough to walk away, forgive, and allow God to walk the healing path with you. If you can never be in that person's presence again, that is also ok. Every situation is different. It is more difficult to forgive ourselves for our contribution in a painful situation. You sometimes put yourself in the wrong situations that cause you pain. We struggle with why I allow this. Many times, it feels like it is better to die than to start walking the path of forgiveness.

Forgive yourself for your contribution to it.

 

There is peace and healing in forgiveness. By not doing this, one becomes bitter, and one becomes physically ill. It's like drinking a bottle of poison and hoping the other party comes up with something.

Choose forgiveness and when you experience emotions around the pain of the situation remind

yourself and the enemy that you have chosen to forgive.

"Forgiveness is an act of self-love."